The ‘Book of Happiness’ in 10 easy steps
Everyone has a unique life story and it is safe to say that no two stories are ever alike. The life choices we make, the priorities we choose to focus on and the responsibilities we take on, define the story of our life.
Amidst all this, it is important to remember that life is a journey, a road that you’ve chosen to walk on. The best part of this journey is the excitement, the adventure that it holds. As you walk, you may encounter bumpy roads, which can be difficult to navigate but with strength and endurance, you will eventually get through. At the same time, you will also come across easy paths that are filled with fun and laughter, inspiring you to skip along gleefully.
What life holds for you is unknown, although this is not anymore true. Especially those days. Be it bitter or sweet, life should be seen as an amazing journey. However, what can potentially destroy this wonderful journey are the scars of the past and that darken your path. Will happy memories of the past be able to enlighten your path and bring back happiness to your soul? I believe it can with the Book of Happiness.
The Book of Happiness is a journal which you can keep your eyes only or share with the people you love and trust. It can be a simple book. there is no need for an expensive journal with leather trimmings or gold plated edges because after all, it is not about how it looks on the outside but what it contains inside.
Your Book of Happiness will hold all the moments that were filled with happiness, throughout the year. From anticipating the birth of your child, receiving pay raise, celebrating your golden anniversary or even the tiniest things that give you joy such as seeing your grandchild running toward you with a wide grin on her face and her arms open wide.
We’ve all read stories of fascinating characters living their lives in the pages of a book. So, why not create your own story by taking note of the happy colors that light up your life? Doing this also allows you to ponder upon them and serves as a great reminder when you’re in need of a “happiness boost”.
I have a Book of Happiness where I pen my happy memories. Although I flip through it occasionally, throughout the year and especially when I need a gentle reminder of how wonderful life can be, there is a time when this book is extra special to me.
Leo Bormans describes happiness as “The degree to which an individual judges the overall quality of his/her own life-as-a-whole favorably.” In other words, to what extent a person likes their life.
Happiness, as a very subjective concept, is very personal and intimate for each individual. To gain broad insights that people can use to help find their own happiness, Bormans traveled all over the world to “pick” the brains of many professionals from Canada, England, Spain, Samoa, the United States and elsewhere.
Of course, some elements of happiness are not ours to control. There are random factors include things like health, genetics, being born into poverty or riches and how one is raised to think about happiness.
Amid his travels, he does address the age old question of “Can money buy happiness?” The answer is yes, to an extent. In other words, a certain amount of security is definitely helpful to most people’s happiness. However, after a certain point, more money doesn’t add to that happiness.
While most believe that happiness comes from within, “positive relationships” with other people can enhance it. That’s as long as it’s done with care and comes naturally. Most people probably believe youth as the happiest time of life. Although there are many ways in which this is true, Bormans finds that one shouldn’t assume that being older is an “unhappy” time.
Leo Bormans in “The World Book Of Happiness” has done well describing the indescribable and then offering ways to obtain it. Everyone should read this book. I believe this would be a very good topic to be studied in schools. Happiness, though difficult to pin down, is definitely something we all look for in our lives. We try to teach our children how to make a living, about political systems and how every corner of the world affects each of us.
Everyone has had problems that could “spin” them into an “unhappy” life. A conscious efforts can often prevent that downward spiral. I have fibromyalgia, a medical condition that is causes constant pain and can get in the way of enjoying life. I let it make me depressed until I accepted that as far as I know this is my only life. Since no one can fix my problem, I refuse to spend my precious days being a victim. I make every effort to find reasons to smile and be thankful.
Every December, I pick it up, sit in my favorite corner of the room and relive happy moments that I’ve had throughout the year. It may take an hour or two (or maybe even three!) but these are precious hours to me. I usually grin from ear to ear and sometimes even feel overwhelmed with tears of joy.
I feel that this is a great way to say goodbye to the year and a wonderful way to anticipate the new year. The start of a new year means that it is time to start a new chapter in my Book of Happiness. One that I will name “2016”. After all, this book I hold is the story of my life. So perhaps you too can be the author of your own Book of Happiness? Why not begin chapter one in now? I know you’ll have no regrets!
Kent M. Keith stated few commandments through The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council and whatever difficult moments you may have along the way, do not forget them (before you write in your own “Book of Happiness“):
The Paradoxical Commandments
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.”